“For while we were still helpless, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Rom. 5:6,8 NASB
Data gathering is an extremely vital element of discipling. The more information you can gather about your disciple, the better equipped you are to help him identify his problems and apply scriptural solutions to them.
Very early in the discipling process, the disciple should forgive someone who offended him so that he experiences how his own act of obedience intersects with the grace and power of God.